Ge\u00e7en hafta bir kitabevinde ilgin\u00e7 bir ana tan\u0131k oldum. Bir adam, raftan \u00fcnl\u00fc bir ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim kitab\u0131n\u0131 ald\u0131; kapa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bile a\u00e7madan, arka yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 okumadan telefonuna sar\u0131ld\u0131. Kitab\u0131n foto\u011fraf\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ekip muhtemelen “Kendime yat\u0131r\u0131m yap\u0131yorum” notuyla sosyal medyaya y\u00fckledi. \u0130\u015flem bir dakika bile s\u00fcrmedi. Kitap rafa geri d\u00f6nerken, adam \u00e7oktan kap\u0131dan \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 be\u011feniler toplarken, kitap h\u00e2l\u00e2 ger\u00e7ek okurunu bekliyordu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belki de zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7eli\u015fkisi bu: Kimse okumuyor ama herkes okuyormu\u015f gibi yap\u0131yor. \u0130nsanlar art\u0131k yaln\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan yaln\u0131z g\u00f6r\u00fcnmemek i\u00e7in \u00e7abal\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sadece kitabevlerinde de\u011fil, her yerde benzer bir tablo var. Metrolarda, kafelerde, caddelerde ba\u015flar \u00f6ne e\u011fik, y\u00fczler ekran \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131nda parl\u0131yor. Bir kafede yan yana oturan \u00fc\u00e7 gencin konu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, sadece telefonlar\u0131na g\u00f6m\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc izliyorum. Oradalar ama asl\u0131nda bamba\u015fka alemlerdeler. Kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n ortas\u0131nda yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, dijital bir g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcyle daha da derinle\u015fiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stoac\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr Seneca<\/strong>, iki bin y\u0131l \u00f6nce dostunu uyar\u0131yordu: “Kalabal\u0131ktan uzak dur, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kalabal\u0131k bula\u015f\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r.”<\/em> O g\u00fcn\u00fcn gladyat\u00f6r oyunlar\u0131n\u0131 izleyenlerin ahlaken yozla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Seneca, bug\u00fcn ya\u015fasayd\u0131 muhtemelen dijital arenalar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 \u015feyi s\u00f6ylerdi. Twitter tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, Instagram\u2019daki kusursuz hayatlar ve YouTube skandallar\u0131 aras\u0131nda hepimiz birer fig\u00fcrana d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ben de y\u0131llarca o kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7indeydim. Be\u011feniler kutsal, bildirimler birer \u00f6d\u00fcl gibiydi. Tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m insanlar\u0131n ge\u00e7ici onay\u0131na esir d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm. Bug\u00fcn ise o ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m. Art\u0131k payla\u015fm\u0131yor, sadece d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Seneca\u2019n\u0131n aktard\u0131\u011f\u0131 Demokritos\u2019un \u015fu s\u00f6z\u00fc, asl\u0131nda her \u015feyi \u00f6zetliyor: “Bir ki\u015fi benim i\u00e7in bir kalabal\u0131k, kalabal\u0131k da bir ki\u015fi yerine ge\u00e7er.”<\/strong> Mesele nicelik de\u011fil, niteliktir. Sosyal medyan\u0131n trajedisi de tam olarak burada yat\u0131yor: Binlerce takip\u00e7imiz var ama tek bir ger\u00e7ek dinleyicimiz yok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Modern d\u00fcnya yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir “eksiklik” olarak pazarl\u0131yor. Oysa yaln\u0131z kalabilen insan, kendi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleriyle dost olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir. Epicurus\u2019un dedi\u011fi gibi: “Bunlar\u0131 herkes i\u00e7in de\u011fil, senin i\u00e7in yaz\u0131yorum; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc biz birbirimize yeteriz.”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir kitap okuyup onu payla\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131mda veya bir fikri sadece kendime saklad\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, o d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcs\u00fcnde kaybolmuyor. Aksine, ruhumda derinle\u015fiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kitabevindeki o adama geri d\u00f6nelim. Kitab\u0131n foto\u011fraf\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ekip onaylanma ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131 doyurdu ama i\u00e7indeki bo\u015fluk muhtemelen baki kald\u0131. Oysa bilgelik kalabal\u0131ktan beslenmez; onu sessiz topraklar yeti\u015ftirir. Kalabal\u0131k maske da\u011f\u0131t\u0131r, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ise ayna tutar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Art\u0131k arkada\u015f listem daha k\u0131sa ama ili\u015fkilerim daha derin. S\u00f6yleyeceklerim azald\u0131, izlediklerim artt\u0131. Kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n ortas\u0131nda g\u00f6r\u00fcnmektense, kendi i\u00e7imde olmay\u0131 tercih ediyorum. Bir ki\u015fi ger\u00e7ekten yeterlidir; o ki\u015fi de kendin olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Not: Bu sat\u0131rlar\u0131n esin kayna\u011f\u0131 Seneca\u2019n\u0131n bilge mektuplar\u0131ndan sadece biri, yedinci mektubudur. 126 mektubuyla bize h\u00e2l\u00e2 seslenebiliyorsa, biz de o sese kulak vererek yazmay\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrece\u011fiz. Seneca\u2019l\u0131 yaz\u0131lar devam edecek.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n ortas\u0131nda kaybolmak, yaln\u0131z kalmaktan \u00e7ok daha tehlikelidir. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k bize aynalar g\u00f6sterir; kalabal\u0131k ise sadece maskeler da\u011f\u0131t\u0131r<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":103277,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[1784,1783,1787,1792,1785,1790,1781,1782,1793,1791,1780,1789,1788,1786],"class_list":["post-102129","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-notlar","tag-bilincli-tuketim","tag-bilincli-yasam","tag-dijital-detoks","tag-dijital-wellbeing","tag-dijital-yalnizlik","tag-felsefe-ve-gunluk-hayat","tag-icsel-huzur","tag-kalabalik-psikolojisi","tag-kisisel-donusum","tag-minimalizm","tag-modern-hayat","tag-seneca-felsefi","tag-sosyal-medya-bagimliligi","tag-stoacilik"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102129","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=102129"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102129\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/103277"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=102129"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=102129"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.remgo.com\/11\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=102129"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}